Actress-model Karel Marquez recently took to social media to express optimism following the unfortunate miscarriage of her first child with husband Sean Fariñas.
In a lengthy Facebook post, Karel said she had “chemical pregnancies,” referring to the type of miscarriage that occurs within the first five to six weeks of pregnancy.
She described miscarriages as “every mother’s nightmare.”
“I didn’t think it would happen to me, but it did, for the first time in my life, back to back,” she said.
According to the actress, she went through the experience quietly and was on the verge of depression until she told her parents, manager and a friend. She also had to take a break from work.
“I stopped working daily as I was almost close to getting depressed – but I just put myself back together and picked up the pieces slowly. I tried not to show signs of sadness,” she said, revealing how her husband has been suffering from their loss.
“Back to back? Could you imagine what my husband was going through also? He wanted this one all his life too,” she added.
She narrated how she lost her baby despite a healthier lifestyle and taking added measures to prepare for her pregnancy.
“The doctors said that I was lucky because I’m still very fertile, I followed the doctor’s orders, took my prenatal vitamins earlier, quit strenuous work, and stopped my usual multi-exercises once I got a positive test result. I was avoiding stress, I had a healthy lifestyle – but I still suffered this. I know at times I would question, ‘why?’”
While she questioned everything she has gone through, Karel ended on a hopeful note saying she has “put everything in God’s hands and trusted the process and pain.” She also said that she and her husband have decided to “chill for a bit, and know that the right time will come.”
“He showed me signs that I could still have a child. Yeah. Ang sakit – but I heard Him in my mind and said that He has something planned for me,” Karel said.
“My rainbow baby (a rainbow baby is a baby after you experience a miscarriage) will come. Not now, but one day. Maybe next year? Next next year? And the next after that? Who knows. For now, let me be my best self, respect my body and mind, focus on the family we’ve built,
go back to work full time, and still keep on inspiring others,” she continued.
Karel also addressed fellow expectant parents who have gone through the same experience, reiterating they are not alone in these challenges and misery.
“I experienced an unfortunate event (marami-rami na ring pinagdaanan) but if you’re going through this now, you will be okay and better things are coming your way, all in God’s plan, all in God’s time. Titibay tayo dito,” she shared.
She encouraged them to hang on to their faith.“ If you feel like giving up this place, it is never the way. Don’t give up on yourself. God loves you so much and He will show you true happiness and your purpose, just be patient. Whatever pain you are experiencing today, it will pass. Smile now.”
Karen and Sean got married in December 2016 after being together for almost four years. Karel has two kids from a previous relationship.