Yayo Aguila turned 50 a few days ago but looking at her picture taken just before her birthday, you’d think the movie “Bagets” that launched her career was shown just 10 years ago and not in the ’80s.
Told about it, Yayo laughed.
“Goodness! I just turned 16 when I did ‘Bagets.’ Now that I am looking at the girls here in ‘Squad Goals,’ I reminisce my youth when I just came out of age.”
“Squad Goals” is an upcoming movie from Viva Films to launch the careers of teenage hearthrobs Jack Reid (brother of James Reid), Daniel Huschka, and Andrew Muhlach (Aga Muhlach’s half brother). Yayo plays the mother of Daniel,the turning of the tide from back when she was a teenager during the ’90s.
It’s been nine years since Yayo ended her marriage with actor William Martinez who was her partner in the “Bagets” movie. They fell in love and after four years, got married. Yayo and William relocated to the United States, had four kids, then moved back to Manila after five years. She was a full time housewife and mother for 25 years so it came as a shock when their marriage crumbled.
“It has been nine years but I still keep on hearing rumors that we separated ways because of an issue here and an issue there. So for the record, there was no third party, it was not William’s vices nor his playboy status. There just comes a time in a marriage where your relationship with your partner becomes platonic and that was what happened to us. And since he was working to meet our needs and I was very busy raising the kids, we started sleeping in separate beds. For two years I kept on praying for my marriage to work and that the flames of love and passion would ignite again. But it did not. So I asked God for a sign if it was okay to leave him because a woman should never leave a marriage. But I was unhappy, I was incomplete and I was broken,” Yayo told me.
“The first sign was when I was invited to join ‘Pinoy Big Brother.’ Everyday I prayed inside Kuya’s house to give me a sign on what to do with my marriage with Yam. For 66 days inside the Big Brother house, I did not miss William. When I went home, I was hoping for sparks to ignite between the two of us. But there wasn’t anymore. I continued to pray for God to save my marriage or give me another sign to get out. I started reading books and I read the ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ bestseller of Elizabeth Gilbert who basically teaches her readers that it is okay to love yourself.
“I realized that for 25 years, I kept on giving and loving William and my kids but I never had time to love myself, to give time to myself, even to heal myself from broken wounds. It was about time I paid attention to myself or else I will always feel broken. But I only had a savings of two thousand pesos because our money was in a joint account. How can I survive with two thousand pesos?
“The third sign from the Universe presented itself when friends offered to help me transfer. Then, works from television and movie companies starting pouring in,” she recalled.
What’s her advice to married couples, we asked.
“Work on your marriage everyday, never lose the passion. Settle your issues before you start repressing them. And to the those who plan to marry, make sure you have come into a full circle with your life before enjoining another life with somebody else. Work and enjoy the merits of your work. Go out and see the world while you can. Travel. Live your life to the fullest.”