Breakup happens and the healing process is never painless. But Alex Gonzaga offers advice on how to move on in the “easiest” way possible. No stranger to heartbreak, she even wrote a book about it.
According to the comedy actress,, the first step is to acknowledge you were rejected. There was a time Alex went to an ex-boyfriend’s house to get it straight from him that their relationship has gone kaput.
“I’m that kind of person who wants to hurt myself more and more until I’m left with no more choice but to move on,” she admitted. “You can call me, ‘tanga,’ ‘masokista,’ but, at least I can say that I did everything for him to comeback. So if that didn’t work out, then it’s my time to move on.”
Though there’s no shortcut to moving on, Alex reminded the pain doesn’t last forever.
“You have to fake it ’till you make it,” were her words of wisdom. “You have to convince yourself first that you’re okay. You remind yourself that you need to move on. Soon enough, you will wake up and realize that you’re already over it. You forget all the pain and you’ve moved on.”
In the case of Jerald Napoles, he recalled the time he stalked his ex-girlfriend. After a while, the comedian realized it is worth nothing and he accepted that the girl would never be in his arms again.
Thankfully, he said, she went abroad.
“I think that made it easier for me because she left so that meant I had no choice but to move on,” he said.
According to him, the best way to be done with your ex is to stop all contact with him or her. However, Jerald warned that you cannot totally forget your ex, unless you’re suffering from amnesia.
“Wounds heal, but marks are left behind. We have to remember that once a guy or a girl becomes part of your life, you can never forget them especially if you have good memories together. You just need to condition yourself that it’s over and that moving on is the best for you two.”
Not your typical ‘hugot’ film
The topic was brought up in relation to Alex and Jerald’s movie “Nakalimutan Ko Nang Kalimutan Ka.”
Watching the trailer uploaded online, the film promises to be fun with plenty of “hugot” lines. In one scene, Alex’s job interview turns awkward when a question summoned the ghost of past heartbreaks and loneliness.
“It’s about realism with a bit of fantasy. Like, if there’s a clinic, and it can remove all the pain and the memories, would you do it? There are a lot of symbolisms in this film,” she explained.
“Nakalimutan” is about Jaz Cruz (Alex). Reeling from a failed relationship, she considers undergoing an operation to switch hearts after she was promised that this will rid her of her memories with a former boyfriend. Still undecided, she hops on a van with her male best friend (Jerald) and travels her grief away to Bataan.
The film marks the directorial debut of Ex-“Pinoy Big Brother” housemate Fifth Solomon. He also wrote the script.
Directing has always been his passion, he said.
“I actually tried acting but I felt a bit lost, I became tired. So I went to Australia and studied Masters Degree in Media,” he shared.
Talking more about the movie, Fifth said the title was derived from the poem of one spoken word artist. They initially planned to submit it to a film festival but they didn’t make the deadline.
If anything, the director is confident “Nakalimutan” would be a successful film.
Produced by Wilbros Films, an off-shoot of the concert and events producer Wilbros Live, “Nakalimutan Ko Nang Kalimutan Ka” also stars Vin Abrenica, Candy Pangilinan, Jason Gainza, Loisa Andalio, Alora Sasam, Joj Agpangan, Jai Agpangan, Ricci Chan, Juan Miguel Severo, and Keiko Necesario.
The movie opens on Sept. 19 in cinemas nationwide.