Big named artists are invited to escort a child with special needs at the Miss Possibilities pageant. I did so last year along with Judy Anne Santos, Alden Richards, Pops Fernandez and Billy Joe Crawford.
This year, on Sept. 21, Asia’s first pageant for children with special needs will be held at the SMX Convention Center. It will include a lot of big named celebrities including Liza Soberano. I remember my experience last year and I was crying a lot because I could see the struggle not only of the children but the mothers as well.
That is why when I hosted the first-ever Viva Convention at the World Trade Center with Candy Pangilinan, I had to interview the latter about her book “Mommy Dear: Our Special Love,” which is about her journey with her child Quentin who has special needs (ADHD under the spectrum of Autism).
The book covers everything from pre-pregnancy to pregnancy, finding out about Quentin’s special needs, denial and acceptance, how to deal with the child’s tantrums, social perception and the community around her.
I told Candy how her book empowers mothers of children with special needs and the actress-comedienne. She said, “To all mothers struggling with their children with special needs, my first advise to you is before you help your child help yourself. Once you do that, miracles will happen for you and your child.”
In Candy’s book, she narrates her struggle from denial to accepting that Quentin’s condition will only be properly managed with therapy but will not be an instant cure. She also narrates that during her denial stage, she was pointing fingers at someone, everyone — anyone — to the point that she blamed herself only to realize all she needed to do was to move forward because every day that you spend blaming and not doing something for your child is a waste.
Today Quentin is 15 years old and he can talk, walk, communicate, comprehend and even vlog with Candy. He can even dance which delights me every time I watch Candy’s vlogs with Quentin.
“ I am not a supermom, Giselle. I think it’s just instinct that you will do everything for your child. I was just so blessed that I have people around me that told me, ‘Candy, you have to move forward.’ I was just so blessed that there were people that told me, ‘Don’t worry Candy, you are not alone in your journey.’ There’s always a God. Everything has a reason.”
This is what I tell you, Candy: God does not give you something you can’t handle. He knew you could do wonders for a child with special needs. You may say you are not a supermom but I say you are. Good job, sister!